4 posts tagged “strength”
Learn graceful verbal self-defense maneuvers for facing difficult people or situations.
Read the idea-packed, often humorous news-you-can-use book Tongue Fu!: How to Deflect, Disarm, and Defuse Any Verbal Conflict by Sam Horn.
Increase your chances of staying positive in the face of argumentative or otherwise negative behavior. If you have complainers, bullies, or manipulators in your life, read this book for insights into how to turn the situation around or graciously step out of it.
Men and women of all personality styles have found relief in Horn's practical advice because she shows how to stand up for yourself without making the other person wrong and retaliatory. The entire book is based on specific situations accompanied by easy-to-remember steps for responding from a position of comfort and strength.
Read this book to learn how you can remain true to your values without becoming a target for others. Horn's examples and quotes from popular culture and personal experience as a mother and coach make this book come alive. In person, Horn is a shining example of the kindness reflected in her wise advice.
To learn more ways to restore calm and goodwill, or move on with your life read LikeABILITY, which you can download right now.
Learn graceful verbal self-defense maneuvers for facing difficult people or situations.
Read the idea-packed, often humorous news-you-can-use book Tongue Fu!: How to Deflect, Disarm, and Defuse Any Verbal Conflict by Sam Horn.
Increase your chances of staying positive in the face of argumentative or otherwise negative behavior. If you have complainers, bullies, or manipulators in your life, read this book for insights into how to turn the situation around or graciously step out of it.
Men and women of all personality styles have found relief in Horn's practical advice because she shows how to stand up for yourself without making the other person wrong and retaliatory. The entire book is based on specific situations accompanied by easy-to-remember steps for responding from a position of comfort and strength.
Read this book to learn how you can remain true to your values without becoming a target for others. Horn's examples and quotes from popular culture and personal experience as a mother and coach make this book come alive. In person, Horn is a shining example of the kindness reflected in her wise advice.
To learn more ways to restore calm and goodwill, or move on with your life read LikeABILITY, which you can download right now.
Read this book for the next time for the next time you might be staring, speechless in astonishment, at someone else's bad behavior.
A dear in headlights look no more from you.... eh? Don't let somebody else determine your behavior.... reacting to theirs. Instead, choose how you want to act - and be proud of yourself later.
Thinking on Your Feet: How to Communicate Under Pressure by Marian Woodall is simply the best book for learning how to maintain composure when responding to a hot situation.
Easily thwarted, daunted, or frozen in tight situations? Most of us are sometimes. Don't be caught off-guard again. For the next time you must speak up "right now" in a hostile, high-stakes, or emergency situation, read this book. And there will be a next time.
Remember (I'll say it again) do NOT let somebody else determine your behavior by reacting to theirs. Get this book along with Sam Horn's Tongue Fu! Woodall provides solid techniques for organizing thoughts, gaining clarification, buying needed time, and more.
If you are shy, low-key, working or living around an often overpowering person, the newest hire, or an outsider, you will find confidence and power-building techniques in this book.
Want more ways to keep cool while facing pressure? Then you'll enjoy reading the many practical methods in LikeABILITY, which you can download immediately.
• It is harder to argue when you are holding hands.
• Know that showing appreciation and attention, especially when you least want to show them and the other person most needs them, will always bring you closer than asking for them.
• First look to the other person’s positive intent as you hear what what is said.
• Saying less often gets you more of what you want from him.
• Looking directly and warmly at her, rather than away, often brings out the part of her you most enjoy.
• Making and keeping an agreement usually helps the other person feel more safe, respected and cared for in the relationship.
• First try to act in a different and positive way before you verbally ask for a change in someone else.
• Don’t interrupt, especially when you most want to.
• First answer the other person’s question. Answer it directly, without preface, qualifiers, countering, second guessing, answering questions she or he did not ask or raising other points first.
• Do not answer a question with a question, including questioning that person’s question of you.
• Find out whether the other person feels you’ve answered her or his question or otherwise responded adequately before you move onto your question or another point or topic.
• Showing resentment and resistence will most likely escalate the hardening of sides between you.
• Rather than describing what you don’t like, ask for a specific change.
• Be willing to make a change before asking for one.
• Don’t ask for more than one change at a time, unless you want them all ignored.
• Know that the more changes you ask for the more resistent you’ll face, and the more likely it will be for you both go to your heads to think, rather than to your hearts to feel.
• Use factual language and few words to describe what you want changed.
• Use emotion-laden language, and more words, to describe what you like in the other person.
• Women: Say and move less, especially when you want to do the opposite
• Men: Give her more eye contact. If you don’t feel comfortable answering her right away, tell her so directly. Then tell her when you will get back to her with a response.
• In the middle of your hottest moments of discussion, remember what you most like in the other person and take the time to express it.
•Of course all these apparently wise pieces of advice are much easier to offer than to live by.
